One of the Hardest Things I Learned as a PANS Parent

PANS parenting presents us with so many challenges.

One of the hardest things for me as a PANS parent was accepting that I can’t control the timing and outcome of my daughter’s recovery.

Sometimes, not having that control was so painful that I had to breathe through the pain, one second at a time, trusting that the pain would ease up as I worked through the grieving process.  

There were three things that helped me with this issue:

1. Putting my focus on what I did have control over—how I parented her.

2. Using that pain as energy towards learning how I could parent her in a way that met her specific needs as a PANS child (now teen).
3. Having compassion for myself as I worked (still working on it!) through the grief and challenges of parenting a child with PANS.

See if there are some ways that you can channel the pain towards taking action, such as learning new ways to parent your PANS child or teen.  

For more tips on parenting with your child or teen with PANS, check out this blog on PANS Parent Self-Care